Wednesday, September 16, 2009

Blog Tour: A Laugh-Out-Loud Book: Boy-Sterous Living


I picked up this book, hoping to learn some tips for working with boys - there's a plethora of boys in my children's ministry and often, I'm left scratching my head at their antics.

From the start, I could barely put this book down. The book, filled with tons of humor and personal stories from Jean Blackmer's life, was simply hysterical. It’s filled with a variety of true-life stories – all from the point of view of a mom.

I think it takes a special person to raise boys. I often find myself trying to understand the plight of a friend, who is raising four boys – ages 5, 6, 8, and 9 – laughing or crying with her when it comes to their crazy stories and actions.

Blackmer’s book was almost like reading a “field guide” to little boys. It opened my eyes to some of their actions – especially those that seem to involve loud or breakable things.

I laughed out loud as I read the chapter, where Blackmer talks about finding her son jumping on a trampoline with a hammer. (Note: he was trying to fix a basketball goal hanging above the trampoline.) She never guessed that she would have to say "don't jump on a trampoline with a hammer." After a visit to the hospital, she learned.

It’s kind of like the lesson I learned the night a group of the kids at church played a game of “hide and seek.”

I never imagined, as I gave the ground rules for the game, that one of the boys would decide to hide in one of the oversized refrigerators. Fortunately, it was too full, so he didn’t get stuck in it - and just smashed a few desserts. But now, thanks to the book and experience, I’ve learned to give pretty specific instructions to the kids – especially the boys!

Blackmer said she chose to write a book, focusing on boys, in order to provide a book from a mom's point of view.

"There are some great books on raising boys but they are mostly written from a psychologist or male point of view and I noticed not many written from a mom's perspective," she said. "It's not so much a book on how to raise boys as it is on what raising boys is like - the adventure, passion, humor and energy boys bring into our world.

"I also saw a need for mothers of boys to feel they are not alone and that their boy's behaviors, although completely unexplainable to a mom, are very normal for boys. I knew I could share some of our stories and other stories from parents raising boys to help moms (and dads) to have a sense of humor, to feel they are not alone, to give them something to laugh and smile about, and to provide practical tips and ideas for raising boys."

She hopes moms reading her book will be inspired to embrace the adventure of raising boys - and maybe even find themselves engaging in a variety of things, all while learning to laugh and trust in God.

Writing the book was hard work, but worth it in the end, explained Blackmer. It  even had some unexpected benefits for her family.

"This brought our family even closer as we shared stories and I asked my husband and the boys if it was ok to write about them and our family life," she said. "I also learned that I do have a pretty good sense of humor, and that my boys bring out a part of me I would never have known without their influence in my life."

A sense of humor is key to raising boys. Blackmer said she has learned that sometimes, you simply have to laugh at what boys will do.

In fact, Blackmer includes some of her favorite stories in the book: one, featuring her youngest son, Jake’s decision to shave off his eyebrows – he wanted to try shaving like his father, and that was the only “hair” on his face.

Another story included in the book featured a son, a firecracker, a toilet and summer camp.
“When my oldest son, Josh, blew up a toilet with a firecracker at summer camp, I came to the conclusion that boys really are a blast,” Blackmer said.

Blackmer said she learned to let go of her fear and trust God with the lives of  her sons, through her middle son, Jordan’s numerous trips to the emergency room.

“I guess I don't have one favorite story, in fact, since writing the book I have even more stories....life with boys is never boring,” she added.

What's next for Blackmer? As the publishing manager for MOPS International she is working on several new books for moms with some incredible authors. She is also writing a new book for moms about dealing with the unplanned moments of mothering.

Blackmer opened my eyes to several things, including communication - related to the boys and their dads. In all, I think moms (and those who love boys) will find that this book is informative, humorous, and well, quite fabulous!

About the book

Raising boys isn't easy. Life with them is loud. If it's quiet, they're probably up to something. Boys are messy, competitive, fearless, and proud. Living with them pretty much guarantees that you're in for an adventure.

In Boy-sterous Living, Jean shares a few of the priceless stories and laugh-out-loud lessons that she and her boys have experienced over the years. With humorous insight and practical advice, she offers encouragement and ideas to help both mothers and fathers impact and shape the lives of their sons. From understanding their love of sports to overcoming the superman complex, Jean shows moms how to find joy and contentment in everyday life by celebrating the laughter, passion, noise, and endless energy boys bring to our lives.

About the author

Jean is currently the Publishing Manager for MOPS International and she's been free-lance writing for 16 years. She has been published in a variety of local and national publications, including: Guideposts, MomSense, Today's Christian Woman, Christian Parenting Today, American Girl, Proverbs 31 Woman, Chicken Soup for the Mother and Son Soul, Chicken Soup Cookbook for the Busy Mom's Soul, Focus on the Family's Teen Phases, Guideposts Miracle Series, and others.

She also co-authored her first book, Where Women Walked: Powerful True Stories of Women's Perseverance and God's Provision. (Tyndale/Focus on the Family, 2004) This book was nominated for a Gold Medallion Award.

Jean graduated from the University of Colorado in Boulder with a Bachelor's (1987) and a Master's (1992) degree in Journalism. She lives in Boulder with her husband Zane; three boys, Josh, Jordan, and Jake.

Visit Jean's Website
Learn more about Jean and her writing - click here.

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Enter and Win - A Chance to Win a Copy of this Book!
Enter your grossest or funniest moment as a mom of a boy (No boys? That’s okay – we still want to hear your story!) and you could win movie tickets and a snack for you and a friend to escape! Share your story by emailing your entry to amy@litfusegroup.com or posting it on the Moms of Boys facebook page!

 As a freelance journalist, I was provided a copy of this book by Litfuse Publicity Group. This review was not influenced by a free book - just in case you (or the FTC) were worried about this detail

1 comment:

  1. Thanks for the book review, I'm glad you enjoyed it.

    Jean

    www.jeanblackmer.blogspot.com

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